Saving McKinley-Injustice in the Hampton Judicial System

I married a man almost 4 years ago that I was sure to be the man of my dreams. 1 year into the marriage I find out that I never really knew who he was. He became mentally and verbally abusive and nothing I ever did was good enough. Going behind me and cleaning even after I had done a fine job of it before. I felt he was OCD. But now, I feel he is a sociopath. I am not a doctor, but I feel like something is wrong with him. We have been going through a nasty divorce since Jan. 9th, 2009. We have nothing of substantial meaning to argue over. No real estate, no money, nothing of monetary value. All we share is our beautiful daughter, McKinley.

He filed a divorce complaint on me on Jan. 9th, 2009 saying I was irrational and immature. We have been in and out of court since Mar. 26th, 2009. Since then I have been fighting to keep primary physical custody of my daughter. I have never done drugs, I have only ever had a speeding ticket in my life and I have no mental illness at all. I separated from him permanently since he threatened me and told me to get out of his apartment (even though both of our names were on the lease) on Apr. 1st, 2009. I have been a stay at home Mom with my daughter off and on since she was born. Most recently was from Feb. 6th, 2009 to May 11th, 2009 until I found a job. The first court date, Mar. 26th, 2009 and continued to Mar. 30th, 2009, I was awarded primary physical custody of my daughter even though I did not have a job, and at that time, no place to live except my best friend's house with her and her husband (since he kicked us out). The judge refused to rule on child support and spousal support. I was also awarded possession of our vehicle that was jointly owned and my primary form of transportation. I was to drive McKinley to and from me to her father every 3.5 days and a day later go get her. So it worked out that he had her 1-2 days a week.

On Oct. 30th, 2009 he put me in contempt of court for not taking her during his visitation because we went to Georgia to visit my family for my sister's Sweet 16 birthday. He agreed that we could go and then he lied to the court and said that I went without his permission. And the judge believed him! He also wanted the car back. So the judge awarded him our car back and gave me 60 days to find another car and pay off the back personal property taxes on the car, all the while still court ordered to drop her off to him by 6pm every 3.5 days. I was found in contempt of court and made to pay his attorney $250.00 because it was my fault why we were in court. But at that time the judge still felt that McKinley should stay with her Mom. There had been no extreme change in circumstances.

Now, as of Feb. 22nd, 2010 primary physical custody was taken from me and given to her father along with child support from me (which the judge refused to rule on for me for over a year) and my visitation is every other weekend from 8pm on Fri. to 8pm on Sun. and I still need to take her back to him. Now my time with daughter has been lessened from being in her life almost everyday expect for her days with her father, to 2 days a month. There is no reason for it. I AM NOT AN UNFIT MOTHER! I do not do drugs, I provide her health insurance because he was FIRED from being a Police Officer! He is a pizza delivery man now and I have been her sole provider for a year without any help from him because the judge refused to rule to give me any relief. For no reason.

There has been NO change in circumstances to take McKinley away from me. I have had the same job for almost a year. We have our own apartment together, I provide her health insurance and I have started school to get a degree so I can better myself for her future.

I am OUTRAGED at the bias that this judge has shown since we are being heard in a court in the same city and jurisdiction that my husband patrolled in. He has refused to rule on Demurrers, Orders, Child Support, Spousal Support anything that pertains to my side of the case. He has let him have the car back leaving me with no transportation, he has now given him our daughter and child support and taking visitation almost to a minimal from a mother that has been in this little girls life for 3 years.

I am putting my story out there because this judge has got to be shown for what he is. He is bias because the plaintiff is one of his own. He is helping and protecting a former police officer.

Help me in the cause to SAVE MCKINLEY!